I’m glad you and your mom have found that softness works. Do you know what sundowning is? When the day begins to lose its light, aggressive cares tend to get more agitated in the evening. One solution others have used is to put mom to bed early.
First, I’m happy to find you. I read this and realize that I have to work on my reactions to those triggers (all but the first can upset me.) I let my 54 year old son move in almost a year ago when he completed a six month residential rehab for alcohol addiction. He knows how to trigger me, and is oppositional/defiant. I have to go and stay in my room and not reply…
I don’t have Alzheimer’s, but I know I have MCI, I’ve also had chemo for the last two years for multiple myeloma. Induction was pretty rough with no caregiver to remind me of appointments, medications, questions, decisions, and anything I just forgot here. I messed up a lot of paperwork, did taxes months late, and spent WAY too much on a new HVAC system with a 20 year contract and warranty.I’m in remission but high risk and will relapse at some point. Still get chemo, but only one MM infusion a month now.
And I’m more worried about my son than I am about myself.
I’m still diagnosed with MCI. Did you get a professional diagnosis or diagnose yourself? Is your son in any aftercare or AA? One thing I would suggest is you going to Al-anon. It should help you with your reaction to him. It helped me amazingly.
You’ve been through a great deal. I hope you are doing some good things for yourself. You might want to get some from my chat thread. We’re still small but growing.
I’m glad you and your mom have found that softness works. Do you know what sundowning is? When the day begins to lose its light, aggressive cares tend to get more agitated in the evening. One solution others have used is to put mom to bed early.
Thanks for restacking me!
First, I’m happy to find you. I read this and realize that I have to work on my reactions to those triggers (all but the first can upset me.) I let my 54 year old son move in almost a year ago when he completed a six month residential rehab for alcohol addiction. He knows how to trigger me, and is oppositional/defiant. I have to go and stay in my room and not reply…
I don’t have Alzheimer’s, but I know I have MCI, I’ve also had chemo for the last two years for multiple myeloma. Induction was pretty rough with no caregiver to remind me of appointments, medications, questions, decisions, and anything I just forgot here. I messed up a lot of paperwork, did taxes months late, and spent WAY too much on a new HVAC system with a 20 year contract and warranty.I’m in remission but high risk and will relapse at some point. Still get chemo, but only one MM infusion a month now.
And I’m more worried about my son than I am about myself.
I’m still diagnosed with MCI. Did you get a professional diagnosis or diagnose yourself? Is your son in any aftercare or AA? One thing I would suggest is you going to Al-anon. It should help you with your reaction to him. It helped me amazingly.
You’ve been through a great deal. I hope you are doing some good things for yourself. You might want to get some from my chat thread. We’re still small but growing.