Walking through this with a friend whose two children have essentially abandoned her. Two other friends have taken responsibility but not PoA. She's grieving having to leave her home but because she is such an extrovert we are believing that she will be happier and maybe healthier in assisted living.
I love you Judi Bailey!I am truly thankful for the opportunity to connect with you through your heartfelt and beautifully written letters. Your deep knowledge, understanding, and firsthand experience with dementia shine through with such grace, compassion, and honesty. Although we have never met, I feel as though I have always known you. You are always in my thoughts and in my heart. Keep on writing! 💜
There are so many changes and little steps to find the right setting for a loved one needing memory care, and all of them are difficult. You did a great job presenting the steps and the division of care (who's on 1st base? 2d? 3d?), plus the angst in each one. Intellectually, the safety issue trumps everything, and you know you're right. Emotionally, it rips your heart out whenever you hear one of the myriad versions of "I want to go home." They will never understand, and you're left holding the bag of confusion, struggling with their loss. Thank you for sharing this complicated, emotional story of what it sometimes costs to make the best decision.
Walking through this with a friend whose two children have essentially abandoned her. Two other friends have taken responsibility but not PoA. She's grieving having to leave her home but because she is such an extrovert we are believing that she will be happier and maybe healthier in assisted living.
Being an extrovert will help. She sounds willing to go, albeit difficult.
I love you Judi Bailey!I am truly thankful for the opportunity to connect with you through your heartfelt and beautifully written letters. Your deep knowledge, understanding, and firsthand experience with dementia shine through with such grace, compassion, and honesty. Although we have never met, I feel as though I have always known you. You are always in my thoughts and in my heart. Keep on writing! 💜
I couldn’t have said it better Cindy. Thank you so much.
There are so many changes and little steps to find the right setting for a loved one needing memory care, and all of them are difficult. You did a great job presenting the steps and the division of care (who's on 1st base? 2d? 3d?), plus the angst in each one. Intellectually, the safety issue trumps everything, and you know you're right. Emotionally, it rips your heart out whenever you hear one of the myriad versions of "I want to go home." They will never understand, and you're left holding the bag of confusion, struggling with their loss. Thank you for sharing this complicated, emotional story of what it sometimes costs to make the best decision.